In Pakistan, Women Pay The Price of 'Honor'
Washington Post, Monday
, May 8, 2000
By Pamela Constable
GUJAR KHAN, Pakistan –– Zahida Perveen's head is shrouded in
a white cotton veil, which she self-consciously tightens
every few moments. But when she reaches down to pick up her
baby daughter, the veil falls away to reveal the face of one of
Pakistan's most horrific social ills, broadly known as
"honor" crimes.
Perveen's eyes are empty sockets of unseeing flesh, her
earlobes have been sliced off, and her nose is a gaping, reddened
stump of bone. Sixteen months ago, her husband, in a fit of
rage over her alleged affair with a brother-in-law, bound her hands
and feet and slashed her with a razor and knife. She was
three months' pregnant at the time.
"He came home from the mosque and accused me of having
a bad character," the tiny, 32-year-old woman murmured as she
awaited a court hearing last month. "I told him it was
not true, but he didn't believe me. He caught me and tied me up, and then
he started cutting my face. He never said a word except, 'This
is your last night.' "
Perveen's disfigurement is extreme, but her case is standard
in its basic elements. Thousands of Pakistani women and girls are
stabbed, burned or maimed every year by husbands, fathers or
brothers who believe they have brought them dishonor by being unfaithful,
seeking a divorce, eloping with a boyfriend or refusing to marry a man chosen
by the family.
If a victim dies, the crime becomes an "honor
killing," a term that has come to symbolize the cruel irony of a
conservative
Islamic society that purports to shelter women, yet often
condones savage violence against them in the name of male and family
honor.
The problem of honor killings in Pakistan, while far from
new or unique, has aroused international attention since April, when
Samia Sarwar, 29, was shot dead in the law office of a
leading human rights activist. It turned out that her parents had ordered
the killing because she had shamed the family by seeking a
divorce.
In the past, elected Pakistani leaders have resisted taking
action against honor killings, but last month military ruler Gen. Pervez
Musharraf launched a national human rights campaign,
singling out honor killings for special denunciation. Government officials
said they are hoping to reduce Pakistan's isolation abroad
as well as increase domestic awareness of the issue.
"The government of Pakistan vigorously condemns the
practice of so-called honor killings," Musharraf declared. "Such acts
do
not find a place in our religion or law. Killing in the name
of honor is murder, and it will be treated as such."
Such crimes occur in countries across the world and among
societies of all faiths; a jealous husband in the United States may be driven
to the same act of rage as one in Pakistan or Portugal. But such attacks tend
to be taken more seriously by authorities in developed countries, where women
are more educated about their rights.
Moreover, because the concepts of male honor and female
subservience are deeply ingrained in Islamic and Asian tribal
cultures, honor crimes including killing have occurred for
years in Saudi Arabia, Turkey, Egypt and other Muslim countries,
including Pakistan, without provoking widespread outcry.
"The concept of honor killing does not exist in Islamic
law, but conservative tradition is very strong in our culture. Islam gives
rights to women, but society snuffs them out," said
Nayyar Shebana, a lawyer with the Aurat Foundation, a women's advocacy
group in Islamabad, the Pakistani capital.
Only sketchy statistics are available on honor crimes, but
the independent Human Rights Commission of Pakistan reported that
in 1998 and 1999, more than 850 women were killed by their
husbands, brothers, fathers or other relatives in Punjab,
Pakistan's most populous province. In many of those cases,
the commission said, the woman was suspected of what was
considered immoral behavior.
Another common form of domestic violence against Pakistani
women is burning. In 1998 and 1999, the commission reported
more than 560 cases of women burned at home in Punjab. In
1998, nearly half the victims died. Many cases were suspicious,
but there were only a handful of arrests. The Progressive
Women's Association, which assists attack victims, tracked 3,560
women who were hospitalized after being attacked at home
with fire, gasoline or acid between 1994 and 1999.
"We deal with these cases every day, but I have seen
very few convictions," said Nahida Mahbooba Elahi, a lawyer and
women's rights activist who represents honor crime victims.
"The men say the wife didn't obey their orders, or was having
relations with someone else. The police often say it is a
domestic matter and refuse to pursue the case. Some judges even justify it and
do not consider it murder."
Since the outcry over Samia Sarwar's killing, dozens of
other cases have come to light, largely as a result of pressure and
publicity by women's groups. In recent interviews, victims
or their families described the following incidents of extreme
domestic violence:
* Perveen Aktar, 37, was severely burned in September when
her husband, a fruit peddler in Rawalpindi, threw acid on her.
According to Aktar, whose face, chest and back are badly
scarred, her husband wanted to return to his first wife, and she
refused. She said she went to the police, but that her
husband paid them a series of bribes and they did not investigate. He has
since fled to another city.
* Zarina, 40, fled her home in Kashmir after her 20-year-old
stepson shot her younger sister dead; the girl had wanted to marry a boyfriend
whom the stepson did not like. Zarina said her husband sided with his son, beat
her and threatened to kill their 2-year-old daughter when Zarina asked for a
divorce. Zarina and her daughter are now in hiding in a private women's
shelter.
* Kousar Perveen, a 32-year-old mother of four from
Talagang, about 100 miles south of Islamabad, was allegedly beaten and burned
to death by her in-laws in February. According to her parents and sisters, the
in-laws had forbidden her to leave their house, even to visit her ailing
parents or attend a cousin's wedding, and she had quarreled bitterly with them.
"They killed my daughter. God help me," sobbed
Manzour Hussain, 75, his limbs shaking violently with palsy as two neighbors
carried him to a protest organized by the Progressive
Women's Association at the Talagang courthouse in April. The in-laws
reportedly claimed she had been burned in a kitchen fire,
but Hussain's family said she had been tied up and murdered. Two
people are under arrest, but no trial date has been set.
According to lawyers and women's rights advocates, many such
cases are never brought to trial. They say police are easily
bribed or persuaded by the men's families to dismiss the
complaints as "domestic accidents." Many victims, especially
uneducated women confined to their husband's homes, are too
intimidated to press charges. Moreover, under another Islamic
legal concept called qisas and diyat, a blood relative of a
victim can formally "forgive" a crime in exchange for payment, with
specific sums prescribed for damage to each body part.
Police officials say that many domestic crimes are never
brought to their attention, that the complaints are often without merit
and that they prefer to settle minor ones informally. But
they insist that they pursue all violent crimes and murder charges with
equal vigor, no matter what the motive.
"We want to punish the man who has done this, and the
authorities are committed to doing all we can to help," said Ikramullah
Niazi, a police magistrate in Talagang who reassured Kousar
Perveen's relatives outside the courthouse. "But it is difficult to
collect evidence, and whether he is acquitted or convicted
is a matter for the judiciary. There is only so much we can do."
Women's rights advocates have praised Musharraf for his
strong statement condemning honor killings, but they note it has not
been accompanied by any moves to bolster investigations or
prosecutions. They also predict that such crimes will occur with
impunity as long as the laws that enshrine men's superiority
over women remain unchanged and as long as the popular belief
persists that a woman's sexual sins must be avenged.
"Sections of society continued to regard any expression
of independence by women as an infamy, and the only way to restore
the family's honor was to promptly put an end to the life of
the transgressor," the Human Rights Commission said last year. The
subordination of women was so "routine," the group
noted, that domestic violence was widely considered "normal"
behavior--even by the victims themselves.
Zahida Perveen's husband, a 40-year-old barber named Mahmoud
Iqbal, does not deny that he carved up her face with his
razor on the night of Dec. 28, 1998. His defense is based on
the Islamic legal concept of ghairat, or uncontrollable actions in
the face of extreme provocation--in this case, suspicion
that his wife was being unfaithful. He took no action against the
brother-in-law with whom she was thought to be involved.
"I did these things, but I was going out of my
senses," said the stocky bearded man, shackled to a policeman with thick
iron
chains, as he stood on a balcony outside the Gujar Khan courtroom,
about 20 miles from Rawalpindi, awaiting an evidence
hearing in the case. "She was provoking me and ruining
my life. What I did was wrong, but I am satisfied. I did it for my honor
and prestige."
As Iqbal was taken to a police van after the hearing,
several male relatives and acquaintances approached and shook his
manacled hand. Later, when journalists showed his wife's
photographs to a group of middle-class men in Islamabad, several of
them commented that she "must have deserved it"
and that her husband "did what a man has to do."
Although Pakistani law does not condone murder in the name
of honor, it does contain strict Islamic ordinances enacted in
1979 that prescribe harsh punishment for the crime of zina,
which means committing adultery or having premarital sex.
Under these ordinances, men and women can be stoned to death
or publicly whipped 100 times for committing zina, but such
charges are brought almost exclusively against women. Harsh
penalties are rarely imposed, largely because it is very difficult to
prove that the alleged sexual acts have occurred. But
women's advocates say the law intimidates women, prevents them from
demanding their rights and encourages men to abuse them with
impunity.
"Usually the women are eventually acquitted, but they
may spend several years in jail meanwhile," said Shebana, the women's
advocacy lawyer. "Their families are happy to have them
in prison, because they have disgraced the family by eloping and they
must be made to suffer for it."
In Pakistani society, women who are accused of zina, or who
seek divorce and are not living with their parents, are often
ordered to remain in jail or in locked government shelters
while their case is pending. In theory, these shelters are intended to
protect unattached women, but in practice they also seek to
protect society from them and to ensure they do not engage in sex.
There are currently 28 women confined to the shelter in
Rawalpindi. The doors and windows to their rooms are barred, and
only lawyers and relatives are permitted to visit them. They
spend their days praying, studying the Koran, embroidering and
watching television.
One pretty girl in her early twenties ran away from home
after she was forced to marry a wealthy man twice her age. Her father filed a
police case against her for eloping with a boy. In another case, a mother of
five who sought a divorce said she was kidnapped by her brothers and threatened
with mutilation. A third inmate named Usma said her husband beat her and took
up with another woman but that her parents forced her to return to him.
"My parents say it is shameful for me to want a
divorce," said Usma, who has been confined for more than a year.
"They say it
will ruin their reputation and that no one will marry me if
I am second-hand. I don't want to go home. I don't want to get
remarried. I just want to be free."
For Pakistani women who have been scarred by domestic
violence, remarriage is almost unthinkable; sometimes suspicious
husbands disfigure them so they will not be attractive to
other men. Zahida Perveen, a slim woman with curly black hair, may
well have caught her brother-in-law's eye as a pretty young
bride.
Now, her face is a scarred and sightless mask that evokes
horror and disgust from strangers. But once in a while, when her veil
drops, it arouses other emotions. Last month, as Perveen
crouched outside the Gujar Khan courtroom, an elderly woman
watched her silently and began to weep. The woman let her
own veil drop, revealing a jaw and cheek that had been badly
burned 20 years before.
"It was an accident," explained a man who sat next
to her.
"It was an accident," the woman repeated quickly,
and readjusted the veil over her face.
In the Name of Family Honor
Culturally sanctioned killing of women in the name of
preserving the family's honor remains a serious problem in many countries. Although
little information is available, some groups have estimated honor-killing
incidents:
Bangladesh: Between 1996 and 1998, about 200 women were
reported to have been attacked with acid by husbands or close relatives; deaths
unknown.
Egypt: 52 violent crimes reported against women in 1997; in
some cases the perpetrator was the victim's mother or sister.
Jordan: 20 killings reported in 1998. Human rights and
women's activists have urged amendments to the penal code, which
exempts honor killings from punishment or reduces penalties
in such cases.
Lebanon: 36 honor crimes between 1996 and 1998, mostly in
towns and small villages; deaths unknown.
Pakistan: Hundreds killed each year. In Sindh province
alone, more than 300 women were reported killed last year, and in
Punjab province 278.
Palestine territory: In the Gaza Strip, 177 women believed
killed between 1996 and 1998 in 239 reported attacks. The deaths
were attributed to natural causes.
SOURCES: UNICEF, national women's groups
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